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Selena Gomez made the first move! Benny Blanco reveals insights into their first date

 But what makes the story even sweeter is how Gomez managed to keep Blanco guessing during their initial outings


Shirley Gomez
Senior Writer
NOVEMBER 26, 2024 3:25 PM EST

Selena Gomez has long been a beacon of authenticity, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. From her iconic ballad "The Heart Wants What It Wants" to her recent heartfelt revelations, the "Only Murders in the Building" star has recently decided to share glimpses into her romantic journey. Now, her blossoming relationship with music producer Benny Blanco has taken center stage, offering fans a hint of a genuine and surprising love story.  

Selena Gomez Made the First Move  

Gomez, 32, doesn't wait around for love to come knocking. According to Benny Blanco, whom she's been dating since 2023, she initiated their romance. During a November 19 livestream with Kai Cenat, Blanco shared how the "Wizards of Waverly Place" alum confidently asked him out.  "She asked me out," the 36-year-old producer revealed. "We were just talking, and then she was like, 'Do you wanna get dinner?'"

LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA - OCTOBER 24: (L-R) Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco attend the Second Annual Rare Impact Fund Benefit Supporting Youth Mental Health, hosted by Selena Gomez, at Nya Studios on October 24, 2024 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images)© Amy Sussman
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA - OCTOBER 24: (L-R) Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco attend the Second Annual Rare Impact Fund Benefit Supporting Youth Mental Health, hosted by Selena Gomez, at Nya Studios on October 24, 2024 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images)

 But what makes the story even sweeter is how Gomez managed to keep Blanco guessing during their initial outings. "We just went and got a drink first, and I didn't even realize we were on a date," he explained. "She was like, 'I would've worn something different to this date.' And I was like, 'Wait, what? We're on a date?' I had no idea!"  

It wasn't until their second hangout that Blanco caught on to her feelings. "I was like, 'Yo, I think she likes me,'" he gushed. "Then I literally just kissed her, and then the rest is history."  

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco© Amy Sussman
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco

 A Relationship Rooted in Friendship  

Now, more than a year into their relationship, Gomez and Blanco have formed a bond that goes beyond romance. "She's my best friend — actual best friend," Blanco said, emphasizing their deep connection. Gomez has echoed these sentiments, describing their relationship as one of the most secure and meaningful she's ever had. 

In an interview with "The Hollywood Reporter" published November 20, the singer opened up about why this romance feels so different. "I guess this is the safest I've ever felt in one," she said. "And I see a future with this person. And when you put a little bit out there, people are not as hungry to hunt you down."   

Selena Gomez y Benny Blanco© @selenagomez

Love in the Spotlight  

While Gomez has been notoriously private about her past relationships, which include Justin Bieber and Abel Makkonen Tesfaye, better known as The Weeknd, this time, she's been more willing to share glimpses of her love life with fans. From sweet social media posts to public outings, her openness signals a new level of confidence and joy. 

 Still, Gomez is careful to maintain boundaries. "There's so much of my relationship people don't see, that's just mine," she explained, highlighting the balance she's struck between living in the public eye and preserving intimacy.